As in almost every facet of parenting, there is considerable debate over how and when you should praise your child. An increasing body of research is showing that praise is most effective when it is:

• specific.

• authentic.

• directed at something your child can control, like her effort and improvement.

Praise is less effective when focused on her achievements or natural abilities. In other words, praise the process, not the person.

When you praise your child because you are genuinely impressed and excited for her in her efforts to accomplish a goal—no matter how big or small—your recognition will be empowering!